Is the Unknown Beckoning You ?

Why did this happen to me ? This is the question I hear daily - the riveting question that confronts each of us as we step into a journey that is new, scary and unfamiliar. It is what I call the journey into the Unknown. Each time we experience a change or loss we embark on the journey into the unknown. The change can be a divorce, death, job change, move or health issue. The unknown calls on the boldest aspect of our being to enable us to move through our current difficult situation.

This last week I gave the keynote speech at the Cancer Counseling Conference. I was reminded once again that loss and change connect all of us along this journey into the Unknown. I was reminded of the time when I was trying to navigate the stromy water after my husband's death, and how I looked for tools to help me sort through the overwhelming feelings that seemed to flood my emotional body. I no longer had a reliable roadmap. But, once I discovered a way to break my situation into managable pieces, I could begin to walk slowly on my path in a new meaningful way. I no longer felt frozen. My thought, "I will never get through this" no longer looked so big and scary.

Applying some simple tools helped me look at my situation through a different lens. Through the years I have passed these tools on to other fellow travelers, embarking on a similar journey. I discuss these toools in my new book, Journaling Through, as Tools for Transformation.

Journaling and answering the questions associated with these three key points can help you break your situation into managable pieces as you navigate the road into the unknown in a new way. I invite you to use this method for support as change challenges you to dig deeper to find your answers within.

1. Identification of a Situation: Tell your story! identify the situation, the emotions attached to the situation and the changes that have come inot your life because of the situation. Write about the other losses or changes that this situation has brought up for you.
2. Integration Reformation of the Situation: What do I have left in my life? What connections support me? What beliefs or behaviors is this situation challenging me to explore in myself or others? How has my environment changed? How can I be in the present- not on rote? What pieces of my life can move forward with me- and support me?
3. Reconstruction/ Metamorphosis/Transformationof the Situation: What has shifted in my beliefs, perceptions or consciousness as a result of this situation? How will my life be different going forward because of this situation? How has my spirituality been affected? How can I join with the transformational power of the mystical presence of God?

Remember.....The unknown is the gap- the past is already behind, and the future has not yet happened. The unknown path is the great opportunity to break free of past limiting thoughts, condititons, and beliefs allowing the unrestricted self to let go and Break Free.....